An unexpected email, decades after my brother's death in Vietnam, connected me to others still haunted by that day and our journey together revealed that going back can change the way we go forward.
This journey has taken me to Marine Corps reunions, to a rice paddy in Vietnam, to my childhood home and into the recesses of my memory and my heart to look with new eyes at my brother, his death, and the ways his life and death shaped my life's work and world view.
The Marine Corps motto is Semper Fidelis: Always Faithful. Along the way, I learned new lessons about faithfulness, about the healing that can come when we seek opening instead of closure, and about the sacrifices that peace --- no less than war --- requires.
I hope you will share this journey with me.
"A profoundly wise and unflinching story. Truth-telling we need to hear."
Andrew Todhunter, Atlantic Monthly Contributor
"This book unlocked my past and helped me let go of things that bothered me for years. It has the power to heal all kinds of wounds."
Ed Doyne, United States Marine Corps Ret'd; Former CO Kilo 3/1
"Leave No Brother Behind is, at the same time, a fearless look back into a troubled period of our recent history, and a call to use our love, our grief, and our hard-won wisdom to advance justice and peace. Jan Christian takes us on her own personal journey which becomes the journey that all Americans need to undertake to understand the lasting impact the War in Vietnam has had on us and our culture of denial. This is a book that all Unitarian Universalists --- and all Americans who strive for deeper self-understanding, personal and corporate --- must read and discuss with one another."
Rev. Ned Wight, Unitarian Universalist Minister